What I've learned about my own way of manifesting

I always get a parking space.

It's a running joke with my friends. When they arrive somewhere after me, they don't even need to look for me: they see my car outside and they know I'm already in there. When we go out together, they know we'll say goodbye right at the door, because the car will be right there. And even when I don't drive, because I got a lift or came on foot, they arrive and say: "look, there was a space right outside — that one was yours."

It isn't luck. Over time I realised it's always the same: I think the thing once, I decide, and I let it go. I don't sit there chewing over whether it'll work out.

And I realised the opposite is true too. When it's something I want badly, I can sit with it, thinking about it, and again, and again. And those are always the ones that go worst.

It took me years to understand that this isn't luck with parking and bad luck with everything else. It's the same thing, on two different scales.

What I came to see

That I don't need to know the whole route. I need the next step, and I adjust the rest as I go. When I try to plan everything before starting, I never start.

That I decide almost always in seconds. The doubt only arrives afterwards, when I start overthinking a decision that was already made.

That when I define something in detail — the date, the exact form, the how — it struggles to come in. And when I define only what I want to feel, it comes in by routes I'd never imagined.

That my best decisions never came from chasing. They came from recognising, on the spot, what was right there in front of me.

And that I have a hard time letting go when I want something badly. It's the one place where I still trip up, always in the same spot.

It isn't a technique

I didn't learn any of this by heart. I noticed it — with the parking first, because it was small and funny and easy to watch repeat itself. Only later did I recognise the same pattern in the big things.

That's why I sometimes say I learned to manifest by parking the car. It's not a figure of speech. That's genuinely where I first saw the mechanism, before I knew it was a mechanism.

The parking sorted itself out. The big things are still learning to do the same.